Most parents know that their behavior has an effect on their children’s mental health, now and possibly forever.
As such, we strive to call upon our better angels, modeling equanimity and empathy as much as we can, with the small hope that these moments will outweigh the unhinged ones.Click here to read the full article at www.cnn.com
There are certain things we do as a country and then as individuals that take their toll on us. At the moment we may not realize how the decision will affect our children’s mental health, but I believe we are experiencing some of those decisions now.
One of those decisions was giving every kid on a sports team awards. Not pushing our kids 10 to 15 years like we did generations before. A very sheltered generation that is now demanding everything be a utopian type society acting out against any type of authority.
I’m not saying there are always winners and losers. There is certainly a large grey area when it comes to performance at any level and in any area of business. However, there is also something to be said about the process someone goes through to the best they can be. There is a completely different process someone goes through to “not lose”.
Now we have a new generation of children faced with a pandemic of epic proportions. It’s not just they personal struggles the children are going through with the school closures. It’s the struggle they see their parents going through.
The article explains how children of parents with anxiety disorders are four to six times more likely to develop anxiety disorder in their lifetime, and children of parents with depression are three to four times more likely to develop depression.
Although the author can determine the long-term effects of the claim, it isn’t to say the parents have no influence over their children’s mental health. An adult without a history of anxiety or depression can identify the cause of the problem. Children who mirror and take on the anxiety and/or depression may not be able to identify it as it wasn’t there’s, to begin with.
I’m not doctor or an expert in the field. However, we are already seeing the negative affects it is having on our kids by not being in school. Instead of sheltering your children during stressful times, “show your children that you are confident that they can tolerate the stress and still be OK. Make them know you believe they can handle it,” Lebowitz said.
Continue to be safe and diligent as we continue to navigate our way through Covid-19. Most of all, don’t forget you are like a mirror children look into to learn about themselves. Be the person you want them to be.